There are a lot of people out there who do not love social media. I am NOT one of those people. I LOVE social media. I ADORE Facebook. It allows me to keep up with friends and family easily and quickly. With the click of a button I can chat with my best friend in Florida in realtime, send a message to a friend in CA, and update everyone about what’s going on in my life. I mean, how awesome is that?
The other thing that is awesome about a site like Facebook is that people can express joy or sympathy almost instantly. Did you have a bad day? Is it your birthday? Did you get engaged, have a baby, buy a house? You will receive an outpouring of responses sending you love, hugs, encouragement, congratulations within a few moments, all there to lift your spirits and make you feel better.
And they do. Those little messages and likes let you know that you’re not all alone in the world. They’re good things.
May I suggest also sending a card?
There’s something about getting a message the day that you post that you’re struggling with something — “Oh noes! Feel better!” — but there’s something even more magical and lovely about receiving a card in the mail a few days later that says, “Hey, I just wanted you to know that I’m here, if you need me.”
There’s something about a card. It’s physical, for one thing; it is a tangible reminder that you are anchored here, on earth, and that there are other people here who support you. It’s personal, handwritten, meaningful. It shows effort — the card was purchased, stamps were acquired, addresses may have been looked up, a mailbox was found. Because delivery takes time, it also serves as a reminder for the person receiving the card that they were thought of BEYOND that moment of quickly typing a response to a status update.
Because one of those is immediate — and please, let me reiterate that that immediacy is lovely! — but the other one is … well, let’s put it this way: On a cold winter day, when you are hungry, canned soup is GREAT and quick and easy; homemade stew, however, is better. Sure, it takes more time and effort but as my friend Annie would say, it’s better because the secret ingredient is extra love.
When you think a little extra love is in order, send a card in addition to your social media sentiments. We promise that it will be treasured.